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Questions
to ask
1. Now that we have talked about
my qualifications, do you have any concerns about me fulfilling the responsibilities
of this position?
2. As my direct report in this position,
what are the three top priorities you would first like to see accomplished?
3. In what area could your team use
a little polishing?
4. Why did you join this Company?
5.
Is there any further information that you require to help my progress to the next
interview phase for this position?

Resignations
Sooner or later, most of us face the resignation
blues. Resigning is never easy, especially when you've worked at a position for
several years, and have become part of a team. Some employers and co-workers take
it personally and accuse you of abandoning ship. However, handling your resignation
as professionally and thoughtfully as you handle your search for a new job can help
make your resignation relatively smooth and amicable.
MAKE UP YOUR MIND
Before you submit your resignation, you
must be clearly committed to leaving. Have you already pursued all avenues for advancement
within your firm? Visit with your boss and other key personnel to learn where your
career stands and what plans are in place for you.
Give your firm every consideration. This
will help you commit to your new opportunity once you decide to leave.
KEEP RESIGNATIONS SHORT, SIMPLE AND POSITIVE
Leave your employer on a positive note.
Your moving on does not have to be a time for long faces. After all, you have just
won an opportunity to advance, an opportunity for which you owe your employer sincere
thanks. Thank your colleagues, too, for their help in preparing you to move onward
and upward. If you have given your best to the job, you will be missed, especially
by those inconvenienced by your leaving! Let them know that you intend to assist
them in whatever ways you can. By showing your boss and firm due respect, you encourage
future support you may someday need.
When you resign, keep your conversations
simple and concise. The more you say, the more questions you may have to answer.
Avoid lengthy discussion about your new opportunity with your old employer. Typically,
your resignation creates extra work for others. Chances are, your boss will be caught
off-guard by your resignation, and will not be able to listen clearly to your explanations
due to concerns about the sudden challenge your leaving presents. Because your boss
is losing a valued employee, he or she may express negative opinions about your
new firm or position. This will only confuse you. You may find yourself having to
justify your personal goals and decisions or absorb the personal frustrations of
others.
If you' re dealing with volatile or vindictive
personalities, it may be best to avoid revealing where you will be going. If you
feel you may face a hostile atmosphere, resign at the end of your work day so that
you are no longer on company time and are in control of your schedule.
Try to schedule any discussions for the
following morning when everyone can face your departure after time to absorb and
reflect on the news. If you have to defend yourself at this first meeting, or if
things begin to get out of control, ask to reschedule the meeting for a more appropriate
time.
THE ORAL RESIGNATION
Resigning orally may place you in the compromising
position of having to explain your decision on the spot. Words are powerfully charged
when you reveal a decision which has such an impact on your organization. Choose
your words with care. Your boss may want to probe for factors which led to your
decision. You may be asked who or what is the reason for your leaving, or may be
invited to offer suggestions to help make the organization more effective. If you
have had a close relationship with your boss, you may feel obliged to answer candidly.
Do not fall for this trap! Use your head and discuss personal, heartfelt matters
outside the office. Remember, you interrogator is still your boss. Whatever you
say will be viewed as biased, after all, you have severed your relationship with
your organization, and may eventually be used against you. At this point you are
no longer considered a team player, nor viewed as having the company' s best interest
at heart.
Too often, resigning employees come to regret
their comments when they are misinterpreted or exaggerated in the retelling. Constructive
criticism is no longer your responsibility, and carries a high cost which could
jeopardize your good references. Instead, offer sincere praise for the firm and
those with whom you worked.
Prepare yourself before-hand by focusing
on several positive aspects of your workplace, and mention them liberally when the
opportunity arises. Even if favorite aspects were, say, the great lunches, or humorous
stories told over coffee, better to mention such things than to harp on disappointments
or shortcomings. (These, you are addressing by moving on to greener pastures.) You
want to be perceived as a positive, constructive individual in forward motion. People
will remember your last impression. Make it your best performance. You may want
to tell your boss something like:
"I need to discuss something with you if
you have a moment. I' ve been made an exceptional offer by another firm, and I'
ve decided to accept it. My wife and I have given this opportunity a lot of thought.
As much as I' d like to advance within this company, we feel the new opportunity
is in our best long-term interest. We deeply appreciate all you and the firm have
done for me here. I don' t think I would have been presented this exceptional opportunity
if not for your support and leadership. I want to thank you. I hope I can leave
with your good wishes. You've been a friend as well as a boss."
If probed for more information, you may
want to claim that there is nothing else to say right now. Simply communicate that
you are leaving a good opportunity for an even better one which suits your aspirations.

THE
WRITTEN RESIGNATION
Written resignations give you the time to
effectively prepare what you wish to communicate, and give you greater control over
your delivery of the message. You can' t be thrown off-track by an unexpected remark
as can happen during a confrontational conversation. A written resignation also
reinforces the fact that you are really leaving and are not simply threatening in
order to renegotiate your position. Also, there is something permanent about the
written word which often circumvents interrogation. Under no circumstance should
you state any dissatisfactions with the firm or individuals. Not only is it good
manners to stress the positive when leaving, but items in your personnel file may
long outlast the individuals and circumstances responsible for your dissatisfaction.
You never know when your path will cross those of your former colleagues. To keep
your resignation short, simple, and positive, you may want to write something like:
Boss,
Title,
Company,
Address,
Date:
Dear Boss,
I want to thank you for all you have done
for me here at [Company]. It has been a pleasure working with you, and representing
the company as your [job title].
I have accepted an offer with another firm
and have decided to tender my resignation as of today. This decision has nothing
to do with the exceptional opportunity you have provided for me here. You and the
company have been more than fair with me, and I genuinely appreciate all your support.
I wish [Company] continued success, and
I want to thank you for allowing me to be a part of your team.
Please feel free to contact me at any time
if I can be of further assistance in helping with a smooth transition."
Yours sincerely,
Name
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Letters get filed and passed around to explain
what happened, reducing the call for endless orations on the same subject. They
also dispel any perceived ambivalence in your behavior during this delicate time.

LEAVE ON THE RIGHT NOTE
Before leaving the firm, take time
to speak with each of your support staff, peers, executive personnel, and others
with whom you' ve worked. To the extent practical, clear up any unfinished business.
Be sensitive to others' reactions and keep your conversations positive and constructive.
Some people may naturally express
their own discontentment, and may egg you on to agree with them. Don't! Instead,
express your appreciation and tell your colleagues you' ll miss them. A little time
spent nurturing relationships before leaving for your new job will go a long way
to build support for your future.
Also keep in mind that it is professional
courtesy to give your employer ample notice to help them prepare for your departure,
typically, 2-4 weeks. However, you should try to get out as soon as possible to
avoid recurring invitations to tell your story, and to avoid having to deal with
the frustrations and pressures at the job as the firm adjusts to your leaving.

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